What is Sexiness?

Growing up, mainstream society forced a certain impression of "sexiness" down my throat. Ads featuring beautiful, skinny and flawless women could be found everywhere -- billboards, television commercials, magazines, newspapers, bus-stop areas, etc. Sexiness was always something physical and skin deep. It was something only your eyes could enjoy.

However, as I got older, I realized that I had been deceived by clever marketing and misleading subliminal suggestions. Yes, skin does sell products, but in the process of dipping waist deep into consumerism, I neglected the essense of true sexiness. So, I spent some time thinking about what exactly sexy represents and compiled a list.

Sexiness is waking up next to a woman wearing no makeup and having her smile at you with complete self-confidence in who she is as a woman.

Sexiness is realizing that you love someone deeper than the texture of their skin and the growing wrinkles near their eyes.

Sexiness is admitting your imperfections in a way that makes you seem more perfect.

Sexiness is holding her hand at a random moment because you want her to know that you love her and are thinking of her.

Sexiness is learning to laugh together at life's wacky randomness, and not fearing to cry in front of her when life wacks you too hard.

Sexiness is knowing that you won't always say the right things, but realizing that sometimes it is just your voice she needs to hear.

Sexiness is going to a new place together without any pre-arranged plans because you want to experience something new and exciting with just her.

Sexiness is sharing a glass of wine together in silence while taking a bubblebath together while she leans back against you.

Sexiness is getting mud all over your face and having her give you a big hug because she loves you more than she hates getting mud on her face.

Sexiness is never letting go when it sometimes hurts a lot to hold on -- it is the essence of learning to forgive and forget because the two of you are only young souls wrapped in human faults.

Sexiness is inventive. Sexiness is adventurous. Sexiness is spontaneous. Sexiness is expressive. Sexiness is raw.

Most importantly, sexiness is a feeling and not an ad.