What Exactly is that "Magic Feeling?" Part II

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MF is not always a moment created strictly from a physical or sexual sensation. I've experienced MF in the most bizarre of circumstances. Once, while going through a bookstore with another woman, we both spent time together in the humor section looking at joke books. An overwhelming sense of happiness came over me from out of the blue -- I felt so happy and content to be with her and share what would seem to be just a mundane experience. MF moments seem to sneak up on a guy at the most random moments - but its presence is never in question, nor is its overwhelming effect on a guy's emotions.

There seems to be some prerequisites to have an MF experience. Generally, the more sophisticated and intellectual women are able to induce these feelings within a guy. A women who is in touch with her own sexuality and is secure with who she is as a person. Confidence is a big turn-on for a guy and a slight amount of female bitchiness is always fun and exciting because it presents a guy with a challenge. The bitchy nature, though, should be more like a blanket that a woman wraps over an otherwise loving, warm, caring and affectionate personality.

I have tried in the past to reduce MF into a formula but all of my precious attempts have failed miserably. Generally, though, I'll know within five minutes after meeting a woman whether or not she is going to give me MF. Once the spark ignites the flame, the ebb and flow that follows is completely natural and impossible to resist.

After countless dates and after countless moments of holding a girl's hand in my own while smiling warmly at her and gazing into her eyes, I've learned that one of the vital and most important components for experiencing MF is to allow yourself to resonate your internal feelings and passions while on a date. No guy should ever be afraid to let a woman know his internal needs for physical pleasure. Don't hide the fact that you are a sexual being by nature -- instead, learn to focus on those feelings and capitalize on the positive emotions that it generates within you. Radiate those feelings towards a woman and allow her to reciprocate in her own unique way. One of the most precious aspects of MF is that the feeling is as diverse as it is powerful. The MF that one woman gives you may be slightly different than that of another woman -- but the intensity and passion that the moment brings with it is always exhilarating.

I'll offer these general guidelines for guys who are interested in experiencing MF:

1. Go on a lot of dates.

Rejection is a part of dating and should never be viewed as a personal thing. One of the best viewpoints towards rejection that I have heard is this: "When a girl rejects me, she's saving me time by letting me know her taste in men is sub-par." No matter how bad the date becomes, always remember that you are the man and you have a lot to offer a woman. Repeat to yourself every day, "I am the shit!" until the thought becomes second nature to you. Learn to fill your soul with positive traits and let those women who are completely clueless towards dating save you time by rejecting you occasionally. They're not weeding you out, they're weeding themselves out -- so if she rejects you, thank her!

2. Don't be afraid to be passionate.

Life is short. Our time on this world only dwindles away with each passing day. Learn to live for the moment and to embrace your internal emotions. Learn to accept your sexual desires as a healthy thing. You don't want to be crass towards a woman, but you also shouldn't feel intimidated by them. Remember, women are here for you and to pleasure you. If she's not willing to let you approach her on a deeper level or to share more intimate feelings, she's probably too shallow and superficial to waste your time on dating.

3. Don't be afraid to act on your impulses.

If she's beautiful and you feel like hugging her then hug her. If you want to kiss her on the cheek and slowly whisper in her ear how beautiful she is, then do it. Don't worry about dating guides or what the PUA community thinks. There is only one rule -- be confident in your abilities and actions. Convey to a woman that you are the walking personification of the best sex she will ever have -- without ever really doing something advertly sexual. Women love to be seduced -- but many of them can only be seduced in certain ways. Learn to communicate first with her and learn her desires and passions. What makes her tick? What makes her happy and secure? Project your warmth and passion towards her.

4. Light physical contact is generally always good.

Don't sit far away from her. Don't cross your arms or legs. You want to remain OPEN towards her. Sitting cross armed across the table from her while staring at the bar is not a good way to project confidence and warmth. Bring your chair next to hers and do something with her that sets you apart from other guys that have approached her in the past. Steal a kiss on her cheek if the mood seems right. The worst thing that could happen is a slap in the face or a rejection -- so what?

5. Learn to listen

Many guys talk too much during a date. You should focus more on listening to what she is saying. However, listening is not done with just your ears. A woman communicates with 25% words and 75% body language. Re-read that last sentence -- women primarily use body language for communication. Learn to become receptive towards her body language. What is she saying? Is she sitting cross-armed or turned away from you (disinterest) or is she sitting towards you with her body open (interest)? Learn to communicate back to a woman by using the same language. Confidence is not displayed with words. Confidence is 100% in how you carry yourself and how you act / respond towards a woman. Make sure you recognize that fact because it is very important!

To be continued ...